How I Found My Way Back to Myself: The Steps That Led Me Into Healing

Recently at an event, someone asked me a question that made me pause and take a slow breath.

She said,

“What brought you into the world of meditation, nervous system work, and healing? Who were you before this?”

In that moment, I realized something important:

It was never one defining moment.

It was steps.

Small steps. Big steps. Messy steps.

All becoming momentum even when I did not realize it.

It was never one defining moment. It was steps.

The First Step: Losing Myself and Finding Her Again

My healing began during my divorce, a season that forced me to rediscover who I was.

It was painful and clarifying all at once.

Yoga deepened that growth. Personal development opened the next door.

And slowly, I found tools I never had growing up.

The Overthinker Who Needed Safety

I have always been an overthinker.

A worrier.

Someone who leaned into stress because I did not know anything different.

Not because I was weak.

But because my body was doing its best to protect me.

Learning how to regulate my nervous system changed everything.

I realized I could choose my responses.

I could shift my patterns.

I could change the way I experienced my life.

Healing Through Boundaries and Truth

Healing did not come from perfection.

It came from boundaries.

It came from leaving toxic dynamics.

It came from recognizing my own reactions and choosing differently.

There was one moment that opened my eyes in a deeper way.

I was talking with my daughter about boundaries in her own situation.

She paused and said, “And do not be like…”

She did not even have to finish. I already knew.

So I said it first.

“Yeah. Do not be like me.”

It was a hard truth, but such an important one.

This moment pushed me into stronger self awareness and ultimately helped me leave a dynamic that was no longer healthy for either person involved.

A dynamic where both people played their own roles.

A dynamic where choosing myself became the only way forward.

She paused and said, “And do not be like…”

Choosing Myself Was the Turning Point

That step empowered me more than I can explain.

Healing is not about changing other people.

It is about protecting your peace.

I is about becoming the example your children can actually look to.

It is about showing them what self trust looks like in real life.

So I kept walking.

I kept learning.

I kept using the tools, even on the days I slipped back into old habits.

Awareness is a lifelong journey.

When Your Body Feels Safe, Your Life Shifts

Somewhere along the path, I realized that nervous system regulation was one of the most life changing things I had ever learned.

Because when your body feels safe, everything shifts.

Your relationships

Your reactions

Your peace

Your clarity

Your confidence

Last year was one of the hardest years of my life, yet I felt more peace than ever before.

That is what nervous system work creates.

A foundation.

A steadiness.

A way to return to yourself no matter what is happening around you.

Why I Share My Story

I show up genuine, open, and honest because I have lived the messy chapters and the beautiful ones.

And if my journey helps even one woman feel less alone, or remember that she can choose differently, or find tools that help her feel safe in her body again, then every step has been worth it.

If You Are On Your Own Journey Back to Yourself…

This space is for you.

You do not need a perfect moment.

You only need the next step.

Here are a few places you can begin:

Take one slow breath and notice your body.

Let yourself soften for even a moment.

Choose one boundary that protects your peace today.

It can be tiny. It still counts.

Give yourself permission to grow at your own pace.

Nothing in healing is rushed. Your timing is perfect.

🤍 You are allowed to come home to yourself one small step at a time.